Blog by Jessica R.

Welcome to my blog – my personal space where I share honestly and vulnerably about the topics that matter most to me. Here, I explore everything around the themes of pleasure, body autonomy, boundaries and desires, offering insights into my personal journey and experiences.

Though many of these topics are closely linked to my work as a counsellor and educator, this space is for sharing from the heart. Though often deeply personal, I believe that there are stories that need to be told and so I do. Always in the hope that some of my experiences will resonate with you.

14.08.2025

Vulvasphere

What started as a glass of bubbly and a burst of frustration became Vulvasphere – a raw, unapologetic, and breathtaking space where art met intimacy and many stories found a home. It was an exhibition born from trust and crafted by many hands, turning into something so much more than just an art exhibition.

17.05.2025

The Day I Crashed (And How Pleasure Shaped My Way Back)

My body whispers before it screams and I have learned to tune in. To course-correct before I collapse, yet I don’t always get it right. Life still throws curveballs—like hospital visits and memory ghosts and way too much noise in small rooms. But I’ve learned how to find my way home after the crash. Pleasure has taught me how to make these choices—how to listen to my body, not just when it’s purring, but when it’s pleading. How to stop before I break. And how to reset when the breaking is inevitable.

The Day I Crashed (And How Pleasure Shaped My Way Back)

11.04.2025

Good enough sex or delicious pleasure

For many years, I was stuck in the good enough. I lied to myself, faked orgasms, and eventually lost interest in sex pretty much all together. The truth is, no one longs for bad, unsatisfying sex. So what can we do to build that delicious, intimate connection with a partner? We need to understand what is happening in our body.

30.09.2024

Mine and mine alone

It happened in my car and no matter how hard I try, I cannot remember which one it was. Gosh, I don’t even remember which year it happened. The memory was shoved into a deep, dark corner inside myself, though the feeling of that night never left me. Not for one second.

4.06.2024

Sexless Motherhood – You Are Not Alone

[...] Sex was so far off my radar, it literally did not even cross my mind. What was worse, was that somewhere along the line of having kids, I completely lost interest in intimacy, while feeling a deep resentment towards my partner slowly starting to build up. Why was he the only one getting something out of this deal? [...]

15.05.2024 · 4 min

Sexual health and why it is important

According to the World Health Organization, sexual health is a fundamental right. One of those things that should come naturally as we enter this world and if you look at the requirements that need to be met, you’ll probably all agree – this really should not be that hard to do … So, why is it? The good news: there are many things you can do about it.

9.02.2024 · 3 min

A quiet power that says it all

[...] It was a cold winter’s morning, with the fire in my psychologist’s practice offering me comfort, while I was crying tears that did not only belong to me, it felt, but to every woman who had come before me. I had had enough. Enough of the struggle, enough of wearing an armor, enough of constantly having to fight for what I knew was right, enough of being a woman in this society. [...]

5.10.2023 · 3 min

Housework, coffee breaks, and orgasms

I spent the morning cleaning. I don’t actually like cleaning, but thinking of how I was high up on the ladder cleaning windows, singing along to Allison Russel‘s album ‚The Returner‘ and shaking my butt as though no one was watching (though I’m pretty sure all those neighbors working in their gardens did) has me giggling. This is me. The new me. The one who truly does not give a damn about what anyone thinks – well, most of the time anyway ...

1.06.2023 · 4 min

Bodysex – my way home

‘I am nervous’, is what I told the photographer as we drove towards the beach, leaving the sleeping city behind us, ‘I have never done anything like this before.’ [...]

29.03.2023 · 7 min

Orgasmic Symphony

Imagine a piece of music that combines the most grounding frequencies with sounds reaching out of this world, all being held together by the sounds of pleasure. Do you have an idea what that could sound like? :)

19.10.2022 · 4 min

Let's talk about normal

When I started my journey with Bodysex, I was very sure that what I was experiencing was abnormal (and, in conclusion, maybe so was I!?). A lot of people, so my perspective, were having the sex I (thought I) wanted. Except for me. My body just wasn’t compliant enough. Well, it turned out that wasn’t quite the truth.

6.10.2022 · 5 min

What is sexual health?

According to the World Health Organization, sexual health is a fundamental right. In order to live a sexually healthy life, according to them, one needs to meet a few requirements ... many of whom I didn't always meet.